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Shhhhh I have a secret….

I missed the Daily Prompt yesterday, not really sure what happened there, so I told myself today that I MUST participate in today’s  one-word prompt so here goes

Daily Prompt: Write a new post in response to today’s one-word prompt SECRET.

Secret? Really? Damn, I should have done yesterday’s which was Leap. Ok, let’s think about this one.

Do I tell an actual secret? Should I share a story about a secret? Hmmmmmm…

Should I confess that I almost always read the end of a book before I am close to be done with it? I hate to be kept in suspense and it is just easier for me to enjoy what I am reading if I don’t have to worry about my favorite character being killed or hurt in anyway.

Just last night I was reading the book “Domestic Violets” and  I was about 3/4 of the way through when the main character, Tom, was having a bit of a life crisis. He had just been fired (he totally deserved it btw), his marriage was on the brink of disaster and I just KNEW something was going to happen to Curtis, his father who had just won the Pulitzer for fiction.

No way I could wait till the end to know Curtis’ fate. So instead I quickly skimmed the last couple pages of the book, got the information I needed and then went back and happily finished the book.  No harm no foul. (the book was great and I highly recommend it)

Sadly, this also holds true for tv shows. I usually read a recap (Entertainment Weekly is my favorite) for an episode (or series if I can’t decide if a show is binge-worthy) WAY in advance of watching the actual show.

For example, I have known for months the fate of Mary and the crew on Downton Abbey. I read the recap after the series finale aired in the UK (gasp!) .

Don’t worry, I promise not to share any spoilers (I never do!).  I just like knowing what is going to happen, especially since I am stuck on Season 4 and Anna is about to be raped – this poor girl can not catch a break!

This annoys my husband and mother to no end and they refuse to watch tv shows with me because I always sit there and remind them that I know the ending.

Phew, I feel so much better getting that off my chest. Thanks for letting me share.

Have a good day and thanks for reading!





Daily Prompt: Pace Oddity

It’s Thursday afternoon which means we are pretty much knocking on the door of FRIDAY!!

I have been cheating with my blogging lately. Yes, I have been trying to do a lot of the Daily Prompts but I am not giving my blog much love.

I am not sure what my problem is. I have a ton of ideas and thoughts floating around my head just dying to be blogged about but they just won’t flow onto the page when I login to WordPress.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

Ok enough rambling, now it is time to Daily Prompt

If you could slow down an action that usually zooms by, or speed up an event that normally drags on, which would you choose, and why?

I choose both.

The event I would like to slow down would be my kids getting older. I will be the first to admit that when I am DEEP in the trenches of parenting, there are times that I can not wait until the boys are “big” and not asking me to pour them a drink or settle a fight over the Lego sword that belongs to Matt but Lucas borrowed to use on his army battlefield.

However, when I find a picture of the twins when they were 18 months old and realize they will be TEN in June it makes me want to cry.

Where did those 10 years go????

Soon they won’t need their mom to help get something off the high shelf or watch tv with them or take them to the park. They won’t want to go to Target with me for no reason or cuddle in bed with and tell me about their day. Ugh, it breaks my heart.

I know they have to grow up and I need to be happy and excited for them and all that they will experience (I don’t know if I am envious of the middle school years) but it’s still sad.

It’s sad and what’s worse is that you don’t realize it’s happening until it’s over. How does the saying go “the days are long but the years are short”?

On a lighter note, the event that drags on (and on and on) that I would love to speed up would be my work day.

While I am thankful to have a job and work for a great company, there are MANY days that just s-l-o-w-l-y drag on. The days when you think the clock on the computer must not be working since it is clearly NOT moving.

Those are the days you are left sitting at your desk thinking about all the other fun things that you could be doing if you were anyplace other than work.

The mall. The beach. The couch watching tv. A tropical island sipping a pina colada. The list is endless really.

Well that’s all I got for you today. Enjoy your Thursday and thanks for reading 🙂



Daily Prompt: Pat on the Back

Happy Hump Day!!

The weather today in the lovely Garden State is horrendous with heavy rains and just an overall blah feel. However, on a more positive note, my hair is not frizzing so maybe the day isn’t a total washout (all puns intended).

Anyway let’s Daily Prompt shall we?

Tell someone you’re proud of just how proud you are

Hmmmmm…..who am I proud of?

There are so many people, how can I just name 1?

My aunt for kicking cancer. My mom for being my “nanny” and always helping me with the kids. My friend Mrs. Jeter for publishing her first book (a real, honest to goodness book that is made of paper and not on an electronic device)???

Matt, my love-bug, for giving his little brother his “magic” stuffed animal when he was having a nightmare?

Jake ,my Buddha Baby, who has worked SO hard to overcome a lot of his struggles with ASD?

While those are all good choices, and I am truly proud of all of them, the person I am most proud of today is (drum roll)


Today my boss brought in a box of gigantic donuts – well there were only 3 donuts but they were in a box.

There was one donut that had chocolate icing and rainbow sprinkles on top and I swear it was calling my name. At first I ignored its taunts, no way I was giving in to the temptation, especially since no one else in my group was eating one (peer pressure is alive and well even when you are 40-ish).

Nope, I stayed at my desk and ate a banana because a banana is just as good as a chocolate frosted donut (not).

A little while later my co-worker Bob stopped by when I told him about the donuts, he practically twisted my arm to go take a look.

Bob and I stood in awe at the beauty of the donuts and questioned whether we should eat one. After a full 5 or 10 seconds, we finally decided to split half of a half of the chocolate frosted one.

I walked back to my cube covered in a cloak of guilt, carrying my pathetic little quarter of a donut on a napkin. Slowly I lifted the donut up to my mouth and took and a bite and felt….totally disappointed.

The chocolate was not gooey and thick, instead it was dry and flaked right off WITH the sprinkles. What a rip off!

Disgusted, at myself and the donut, I threw the remainder of the donut in the trash.

And for that my blogger friends, I am 100% proud of myself (insert toothy grin)!

Thanks for reading 🙂



Go Me!

Today’s post, which was the Daily Prompt,  was my 200th post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Go me!!

Thanks for listening, you may go back to your regularly scheduled activity 🙂




Daily Prompt: The Stat Connection

Ugh WordPress what are you doing to me today?? We were on a roll with the Daily Prompts and then today you throw this one at me:

Daily Prompt: Go to your Stats page and check your top 3-5 posts. Why do you think they’ve been successful? Find the connection between them, and write about it.

Here it goes, my top 3 posts:

  1. Happy Endings
  2. Say My Name
  3. Throw Back Post….circa 2013 

I have had my blog since 2012 (yikes!). The first 2 years I was blogging almost everyday, then I got writer’s block and I just stopped.

Sure, every once in a while I would post a random blog but they were never like they used to be.

Back in 2012, the ideas used to just pop in my head and the words would just flow. There wasn’t any stress or thought, the words were just there as my fingers typed away and before I knew it, the blog was done.

Once the writer’s block kicked in, I began to think too much about what I was going to blog about and worried about what people would think.

I wasn’t writing for me anyone, I was trying to attract an audience and make people want to read me. I wanted to be Freshly Pressed damn it!

Never a good idea.

My blog has never received a lot of traffic or won any blogging awards. No, it was just me and my musings and my little group of loyal followers.

Every now and then people will ask me why I don’t blog anymore and I have no good answer for them except that I miss it.

I really miss it. When I was blogging it made me happy and it was a release for me.

Well here I am VERY slowing putting my toe in the blogging waters to test them out and see if I am ready to jump in.

It’s a little scary but so far so good.

Thanks for reading 🙂




Throw Back Post…2013

Wow the things that you find in your blog “drafts”. Since I am ever-so-slowly working my way back into blogging, I thought it would be fun to peruse the 74 “drafts” I had sitting in my draft folder.

Holy Crap – 74???!!

Some of the drafts were just titles, back when I was a regular blogger, I would always start a post with the title. Once I had the title, the rest just fell into place. Now, 4 years later, I am lucky to even come up with a thought, let alone a title.

At the bottom of my drafts there were some posts with no titles and that is where I found this. I can remember this day like it was yesterday and the emotions are all still fresh. I can’t believe I never posted it.

Well better late than never. Ladies and gentlemen I bring you Nic’s TB post circa 2013….

Sometimes being a mom isn’t so bad

My son Jake was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder about 21/2 years ago. Since is diagnosis in January 2011, the  has been a roller coaster ride of emotions and “stuff” .

Jake has really good days, really bad days and everything in between. However, through it all, he has put on a brave face and is almost always smiling (unless he is angry). When he is truly happy there is nothing more beautiful than his big, blue eyes looking back at you.

The last couple weeks I have been in an “ASD SUCKS” kinda mood. I know… it can be so much worse; I should be thankful Jake is doing so well;  there are so many others that are worse off yada yada yada. Still, when it is your kid and you have to watch him/her struggle daily it doesn’t matter  – it just sucks.

This past weekend, however, was A-Mazing with J. It started last Friday when J’s school hosted a talent show. J attends a school for kids with special needs so I was really not expecting much from a talent show.

Jake’s teacher, the beloved Miss Heidi, had mentioned that she had worked with the class for weeks on a routine but kept it a secret. All we were told was that the kids should wear black pants and a white shirt.

The morning of the show, I asked J what he was performing in school. He gave me a shy smile and did some hand motions that made no sense to me at all. Ok, whatever I thought as I got him ready for the bus.

I arrived at his school to a packed parking lot and I panicked a little that I was late.  Quickly, I was able to grab 2 seats, my husband was meeting me there, and anxiously waited for the show to start.

The principal handed out programs and under Jake’s class it said  ”My Girl”. Now it all made sense!! Jake is in a class with 5 boys and 1 girl. OMG this is going to be awesome….but will J do it or freak out????

J was act #6 and it felt like FOREVER until his class got on “stage.” Finally I heard the music and in walked Jake and his class.  The boys were wearing top hats and bow ties and the little girl sat in the middle on a bench covered in pink tulle.

This kids took their places and did the entire routine to perfection! I could not believe my baby was doing this in front of a room packed with people – students, teachers and parents!  Never would that happened 2 years ago. To me it was simply a miracle.

After the song was over, the kids took their bow and the room erupted in applause as the teachers shot confetti into the air. They did it – Jake did it!

I don’t think I will ever be able to describe the feelings I had when Jake walked off the stage. It was a combination of so many emotions and feelings all mixed together. I just remember thinking “everything will be ok…. Jake will be alright” as tears ran down my face.

Voice Work

Today’s Daily Prompt is….

Your blog is about to be recorded into an audiobook. If you could choose anyone — from your grandma to Samuel L. Jackson — to narrate your posts, who would it be?

Hmmmmm…my first thought was Morgan Freeman because he just has one of those voices that grabs your attention. It’s deep and soothing and makes everything sound important.

That said, I am not sure if audiobook listeners would connect with a 78-year old man reading the musings of a 40-something, sarcastic mom of 4 boys. However, the more I think about it, it may be sort of mesmerizing to hear Mr. Freeman read My New Love or My “Date” with IT Guy .

I don’t know, maybe it could work. Maybe people would be so excited to hear Mr. Freeman read my tales that sales of my audiobooks would skyrocket!

Before long, I would be featured in People magazine or maybe even Entertainment Weekly and everyone would be buzzing about me!

That’s it, my mind is made up – Morgan Freeman it is!!

Happy Hump Day everyone 🙂



Lucky number 7 – Daily Prompt Seven Wonders

I am not a frequent participant in the Daily Prompt but today’s was a good one Seven Wonders.

Khalil Gibran once said that people will never understand one another unless language is reduced to seven words. What would your seven words be?

Wow, this was an easy one for a change. My words are (drum roll please)….

There is always something to laugh about

I use humor and/or sarcasm, who am i kidding it’s 99.9% sarcasm, as a defense mechanism. When life gives me lemons, it is just easier to make fun of myself or laugh about whatever the lemon dujour may be. It takes the pressure off and lightens the mood a bit.

Sometimes my humor is not always appreciated and sometimes people don’t always “get it” (shame on them!) but who cares right?

Life is not always fun and it is definitely not always easy. However, if you can find something to laugh about it just makes everything better for a little while at least.

Happy Almost Thursday!

30 Days of Thanks: Day 12

This month I am participating in “30 Days of Thanks” with my friend and fellow blogger CC at A Working Mom Today. Hope you can check us out 🙂

Since it’s Tuesday, I have decided to make today a “Tuesday Two-fer” day of thanks  – I am typing this before my second cup of coffee so please humor me.

Day 12 (part 1): SNOW

I hate snow. Yes, it’s pretty when it first falls and it makes the holidays look and feel very festive. BUT it is also a PITA. People can’t drive in it, I have to shovel and wear boots and it looks dirty and depressing when it’s piled up in the mall parking lot for the weeks following a storm.

However, my kids LOVE it. I am not sure where this love comes from, but starting last night, one of the twins came up to me with this excited look on his face. Oh no, I thought, what happened downstairs??

Mommy?? Did you hear…it’s going to SNOW TOMORROW!! he said. Phew…no one is hurt I thought before answering Yes it is, isn’t that great??!

This morning I was in the bathroom when I heard a stampede coming up the stairs. MOMMY! MOMMY! MOMMY IT’S SNOWING!!! Come look!!

I went to the window and there were 4 little heads all crammed trying to get a glimpse of the wet snow falling from the sky. The looks on their faces was nothing short of pure joy.

To be that young and happy and untainted by life….

Day 12 (part 2): Facebook

I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. Yes, it is one of the first things I check on my phone when the alarm goes off – you never know what all important item will have been posted in the 8 hours I was sleeping.

I like keeping up with friends and family, seeing pictures and knowing what is going on in their lives. I LOVE the funny eCards people share, recipes (that I never make) and cute/funny/inspirational quotes that show up from time to time.

I HATE the incessant bragging and showing off “friends” sometimes do. Seriously, is your family REALLY that great??? If so, can I PLEASE have whatever it is that you are taking? (lol)

I am not a fan of the political rants – aren’t we not supposed to discuss religion and politics?

Still I can not make myself quit Facebook. It’s like a car wreck I can’t stop staring at. I guess as with most things you take the good with the bad.

Ummmm, I thought she was thankful for Facebook? Why is she ranting???

As I mentioned earlier, I do like the witty/funny pictures and sayings that get posted from time to time. Here are a few of my recent favorites hope you enjoy.

Have a good day!

YES Please!!

YES Please!!

This is me!!!!!

This is me!!!!!

I may print this and hang it up as a reminder

I may print this and hang it up as a reminder

30 Days of Thanks: Days 8-11

This month I am participating in “30 Days of Thanks” with my friend and fellow blogger CC at A Working Mom Today.  Hope you can check us out 🙂

Happy Monday afternoon friends out there in the great blogosphere. I apologize for not getting this posted in the morning but better late than never right?

As I mentioned last Thursday in my Day 7 post, weekends are difficult for blogging since I reside in Casa Chaos with my 4 boys. This past weekend was no exception since I attempted to potty train the almost 4yo (not to self: hire Supernanny Jo next time).

I didn’t want to skip days of thanks so instead, I thought it would be fun to summarize Days 8-11. Here we go:

Day 8:

It was Friday and I had my annual appoint at my ob/gyn. Ladies, this may not seem like ANYTHING to be thankful for BUT keep in mind that my children were ALL HOME FROM SCHOOL last Thursday AND Friday so this doctor appointment allowed me 2 hours of FREEDOM!!!!

Wait there is more. I have gone to this practice for 10 years and was a regular there for probably 5 years (back to back pregnancies will do that to you). I know everyone in the office so it surprised me when a new nurse called me back to check my blood pressure.

As she looked through my humongous file, she paused at my birthday and said OMG, is that age right?? I would have sworn you were in your EARLY 30s.

Needless to say she is now my new BFF and I am thankful for the compliment.

Day 9:

This was a tough day to have thanks for anything since potty training was not going over well with L. I have NEVER seen a child be so stubborn about peeing!

Seriously, I spent over $50 on “big boy underwear” AND a stupid Teenage Mutant Ninja turtle car  AND a potty chart AND stuffed him with candy and the kid would not pee!

This went on for hours and hours until I heard a little voice say Mommy…look it’s coming out.

O-M-G I have never in my life been so excited to see someone pee in a potty before!!!! Me and the other boys all cheered and told L how great he did!

Well all that has worn off and L is still being stubborn about the potty. However, I am thankful for the brief period of unconditional joy I felt Saturday afternoon.

Day 10:

I was able to go to the mall ALONE for an entire hour AND The Loft had additional 40% off sale.

Day 11:

Hmmmm what to be thankful for on a cold Monday morning?????

I was going to post something serious about sympathy and compassion but quickly remembered  the trouble I got myself into last winter. So instead I am thankful that the sweater dress I bought yesterday (for $25) fits!

Hope you have a great week!

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